Seven-Ten Session Plan

Plan for High School Students (50 min sessions). With younger students omit Sessions 8 & 9.

SESSION 1: INTRODUCING SIS TRAINING AND TEAM BUILDING

Creating a setting of safety, trust and support for positive change.

Exploring our sameness, diversity and uniqueness.

Moving from relationships of submission-dominance to relationships of equal value.

Using the workbook/journal.

SESSION 2: PLACATING AND SAYING IT STRAIGHT

Review of workbook/journal.

Placating communication/behavior: sculpture and awareness. Language.

Say It Straight communication/behavior: sculpture and awareness.

Making movies. Transforming placating to SIS.

Feeling good versus being cool.

SESSION 3: TEMPERATURE READING. BLAMING OR BULLYING AND SIS*

Review of workbook/journal.

Temperature Reading: appreciations, worries, puzzles, suggestions for change, new information and accomplishments, today’s hopes wishes excitements and commitments.

Blaming, Bullying communication/behavior: sculpture and awareness. Language.

Blaming/bullying movies. Transforming to SIS.

Our Bill of Rights and Bill of Responsibilities.

SESSION 4: BEING PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE OR TWO FACED AND SIS*

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

Passive-Aggressive communication/behavior: sculpture and awareness. Language.

Passive-Aggressive movies. Transforming to SIS.

Comparing language and experience of placating, bullying/blaming with being passive-aggressive.

Introducing the concept of rules and rule transformation (with high school students or students in support groups).

*DEPENDING ON GROUP SIZE AND TIME ALLOTTED PER SESSION, SESSIONS 3 AND 4 MAY BE COMBINED.

SESSION 5: BEING SUPER-REASONABLE OR PLAYING SMART AND SIS**

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

Super-Reasonable communication/behavior: sculpture and awareness. Language.

Super-reasonable movies. Transforming into SIS. Making movies with more than two actors.

SESSION 6: BEING IRRELEVANT, DISRUPTIVE OR SPACING OUT AND SIS**

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

Irrelevant communication/behavior: sculpture and awareness. Language.

Irrelevant movies. Transforming to SIS.

Making more complex movies with more actors.

**DEPENDING ON GROUP SIZE AND TIME ALLOTTED PER SESSION, SESSIONS 5 AND 6 MAY BE COMBINED.

SESSION 7: POSITIVE SUPPORT

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

Exploring Positive Support.

Positive support movies and exploring responsibility.

Transforming any communication/behavior into SIS and positive support.

Exploring what works.

SESSION 8: RULES AND RULE TRANSFORMATIONS
(This Session is done with 9th -12th grade students, adults, and younger students in special groups).

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

Multigenerational sculpture of rules.

Experiencing the strength of our roots.***
***This is done with younger students in Session 7 or Session 9.

Transforming rules that lead us to placate, bully, blame, be passive aggressive, play smart, split away from feelings, be irrelevant etc.

SESSION 9: SYSTEMS EXERCISES

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

System under stress: system exercise (non-verbal or verbal).

The pull between conflicting wishes. Necklace of resources.

SESSION 10: THE DANCE OF INCLUSION AND WRAP-UP

Review of workbook/journal and temperature reading.

The dance of inclusion.

Wrap-Up: Making our YES real and our NO real.

To be trustworthy we don’t have to be perfect, we have to be real.